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The Polarity Principle: 3 Reasons You’re Failing at Love.
Polarity has a range of definitions but the one my frequency vibrates with the most is “The state of having two opposite or contradictory tendencies, opinions, or aspects.” Love, the great key, the one wish we all have, is elusive and confusing like a baby approaching bedtime. We all want to know how it works and whom it favors. When we hear cases of people who were total opposites making a life together we are intrigued. It influences us to try to get out of our comfort zone and so eager and hopeful, we go out seeking someone unlike us. Flawed, we usually seek someone whose core values repel our own. I’ll give an example: Sister girl A dates homie B. Homie B is an aspiring entertainer unwilling to pursue his dreams and a 9–5. Sister girl holds homie down giving him more than she should. It’s all done under the guise of sacrificing and challenging yourself. But soon it goes awry when sister girl finds out homie is only willing to work but so hard.
Spurned by him, Sister Girl vows never to date outside her comfort zone. Sounds familiar? Before you destroy me for telling the truth, think about why it failed. There are 3 core principles that must be observed when dating someone different from you.
